
Having a son made me question the place of a computer in his life. When should he be allowed to use one? What rules should there be around that use? Would he be better spending his entire life doing “real” stuff?
Matthew is 20 months old in this photo and has now been using a computer for about five months. I was actually fairly reluctant to allow him on a computer as I had visions of all the worst possible outcomes (i thought he would immediately transform into a greasy-haired, pimply-faced, overweight, drug-using, unemployed 20 year old with no ambition beyond sitting in front of a computer in a basement all day and playing some online game that hasn’t been invented yet).
However I got a Mac Mini for him to use and hooked it up to a touch screen monitor and set it all up on a table in the lounge. I installed Tux Paint and Reader Rabbit Toddler on it and used those programmes when he was around a few times. I had thought he might enjoy making lines or shapes in Tux Paint, but instead he preferred to change the selected tools from the onscreen menus and to select options that would have a dialogue box pop up. It seemed he liked the dialogue boxes because they gave him a reason to have me with him, and he would grab my finger and make me touch the screen to dismiss it. I might be wrong but it really did seem that he preferred having someone with him.
Within a couple of weeks he developed a strong preference for Reader Rabbit and enjoyed a module in it that he could make sing a song by touching on one of about 8 different icons. He saw his older nephews play in other areas of the programme on 2-3 occasions and could exit the module he was in and choose another one on his own. Indeed he went through a stage where that was all he did, just entered and exited the modules, often the same one over and over.
By the end of the first month he could get up on the short stool in front of the table and launch either Reader Rabbit of Tux Paint from the dock. This was not something we had taught him to do, although he had seen us do it. He also started playing in modules that had previously held little fascination for him. Up until about 6-8 weeks we did nothing to moderate his use of the computer, he would hop up on the stool play for up to 10 minutes and then hop back down and go play with his other toys. But then he did start wanting to get on the computer before breakfast when he got up, and although he only had about 10 words in his vocabulary computer (he called it the “tar”) was now one of them. At this stage we put a cloth over the screen and did not remove it until after his afternoon sleep and he could play on it during the late afternoon if he wished.
After 2 months he could use the shape sorter proficiently, and could distinguish between different sizes of the same shape and when we watched him it was obvious that he was looking at the shapes he had to place and the “holes” they needed to go to and was working with thoughtful intent to complete the puzzle. While it is not obvious in the attached photo, he often uses both hands when working with the shape sorter which is very cool to watch. This learning seemed to transfer to him using his shape-sorter toy as well, although I have no way of verifying that.
After three months of using the computer (18 months old) he was able to recognise the shapes of the letters of the alphabet and match letters on keys with letters on doors in one of the modules. My wife and I had not realised this at first, a friend who was watching him pointed it out to us, we had decided only a few days earlier that he was still making random guesses. This definitely was learning that he was able to transfer to actual objects as at about this time my wife was playing with our nephew and had some cards with letters on them and was spelling Stefan’s name. She was saying where is an “E” and Matthew picked one up and handed it to her. When we investigated this further he could name 6 letters and appeared to recognise a few more when we asked him to find them even though he could not say the name of the letter. Since then we have further encouraged this while out walking and stop at letterboxes, signs and number plates for him to tell us what numbers and letters are on them.
I have been frankly amazed at the value of him having access to a computer. He has been able to show intent, to demonstrate learning and seems to have enjoyed a sense of achievement at being able to do things. It has provided stimulation and challenge on demand in a way that my wife and I would not have been able to do ourselves. It has not turned him into a computer addict, he probably stands at it for up to an hour in total on some days but other days he does not touch it. The challenge for us now is to keep finding programmes that challenge him as he gains confidence and ability.